How to Make Him Propose – Final Part
The Final 6 Points on “How to Make Him Propose”
Don’t be desperate: I said this a lot in my seminars, sex will not keep a man and pregnancy will not make him stay. Trying to be a tiger in bed to convince him to marry you will only piss him off. Don’t try too hard and become a robot all in the name of looking for marriage. I have heard ladies saying, let him do whatever he likes now, I will show him my true color as soon as we get married. You can only say this if you want your marriage to be for few days. Your marriage will be hell on earth if you pretend to be who you are not during courtship/dating. Don’t let him feel that he’s being pushed or pestered; after all, it’s his loss if he loses you.
Don’t believe lies: Women are more than men, nobody will marry you, you will not find a husband unless you become a slave or visit a spiritualist… blah blah blah. Stop believing all these lies. Don’t allow wrong statistics to push you into doing the wrong thing. Whoever that told you that there are more men than women of marriageable age in Nigeria is lying; the only reason why it seems so is because of the economy situation that is making the male folks drag their feet about marriage. For those who feel there’s one witch somewhere blocking their marriages, this is another issue I see on daily basis as people come to my office for counseling. I agree this is Africa, and the impact of spirituality cannot be overemphasized, but why practice what you don’t believe, if you have gone for deliverance and you have been prayed for, why still believe that there’s still one demon somewhere? If Christ set you free, you are free indeed!
Have a frank talk: I tell ladies, if the only answer you can give whenever you are being asked where your relationship is heading is “I don’t know o” then you could be playing to the gallery. I read a lot of articles advising ladies not to ask, it will make you feel desperate however I’m telling you that the only way to know whether a man wants to marry you or not is by asking. This is not the asking that makes you look desperate, it is your action. Concentrate on not being desperate in action but in words! If you follow some of the tips above, it will help you to avoid being desperate in action, especially by avoiding premarital sex. Position and package yourself for him to be dying to have you, love him like your life depends on it but don’t give in on sex.
Talk to a counselor: One area we are not getting it wrong in this part of the world! If it’s not working don’t throw it away, make effort to work on it by talking to a counselor, most of the problems you are having could be solved with the help of a professional counselor like Dr. Tolu. You will be surprised that your relationship could blossom and lead to a lasting marital relationship.
Know when to throw in the towel: Don’t patch it when it’s obviously not working. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, or else you will waste your precious time building on a wrong foundation, and if the foundation becomes destroyed, what can the righteous do?
Pray: I’m advocate of prayer, nothing works without God. Take your time and pray about your choice of man, forget running from pillar to post talking to spiritualists, genuinely talk to God by yourself, fast if you can and you will see God at work.